Monday, March 3, 2014

11 Facing Some Mid-Life Reflection

Happy Birthday to Me...
 I love to celebrate...I want to...another year of precious memories I've collected...
however this year I'm facing a Mid-Life Crisis Reflection.
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I am not in crisis....I am quite aware of what is happening, my thoughts are clear and rational but as I look forward to the last few years of my 40's... I am uneasy...

Tick Tock...I'm hearing an internal clock that I've never heard before, part of me is anxious.... which is not normal for me.

I know age is Just a Number....I don't feel (or act my age)...some extremely kind people say that I don't look like I could have daughters that are 22 and 24. I've never been uncomfortable with getting older but this year is different, over the past few months I have been touched with some tragic events that are causing me to take a closer look at my life.

In May of last year, 7 months ago, one of my dear friends and colleagues, Lisa, passed away unexpectedly at age 51.  I am still in disbelief that she is gone...Her phone number is still programed in my phone because honestly, I don't have the heart to delete "her".  Lisa was one of those magnetic people, the ones you love to be around because they are always positive and smiling.  I really miss her.

Then in November, 3 months ago my friend and Ouidad hair stylist, Steven, passed away suddenly at age 43.   Steven was so full of life...I always teased him, calling him spunky. (among other things)  He was a genius with my curly hair...Steven...here one day gone the next. I really miss him.

On Friday my daughter was crushed by the news that her friend and mentor, renowned photographer, Paul, passed away 2 weeks after turning 51.  Brianne told me, I know he is in heaven saying..."I wasn't finished yet"

I wasn't finished yet.... those 4 words have been running through my mind for the past two days.
So this is where my reflection comes in....I know I'll never feel finished but I have to ask myself ~ am I living each day as if I was approaching the finish line?


This year for my Birthday I am asking myself 5 powerful questions....
  • How has my existence effected the world so far... 
  • What are I currently doing that makes a difference...
  • What and/or who is making a negative impact on my life...
  • What are the things that truly make me happy...and how often are you doing them? 
  • What really matters to me and why?
Deep stuff huh?
Some of the answers to these questions will come easier than others...Like my two contributions to this world! (what Mama wouldn't say that!)

Others will take some soul searching to answer.

 

Focus on Happiness

I know one area I need major work on is doing the things that make me happy.  Between work and the household manusha, I tend to spend every weekend running-errands and completing household stuff. Before I know it, Sunday is over and I am getting ready for a full work week... that HAS to change for me.  I need to take either Saturday or Sunday off to do something I enjoy. 

So Happy Birthday to me... time to reflect...    

Do you self reflect?
Does it happen at a certain time of the year...or continuously?
What do you do to ensure time for YOU?

Thank for Reading!
xoxo

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11 comments:

  1. Sharon...Wow, powerful words with a very good message to us all...thanks for sharing them. Wishing you a wonderful birthday surrounded by all the people you love! Happy BirthdayXOXO.

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    1. Thank you Wendi! I always get very reflective around my birthday...things I should remember all year long!
      Had a wonderful day!
      xoxo

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  2. Aw, tears reading this. Yes, I am right with you some days with all of these thoughts. Like... "what the heck am I doing"? and "what do I REALLY want to be when I 'grow up' "?? Thanks for this beautiful reminder - especially about how fleeting life can be - and YOU are beautiful, as are your girls. You're not fooling anyone, though. We know you aren't really old enough to have girls that old so they must be hired stand-ins. hahaaa Happy, happy birthday, sweet friend! I hope it is another wonderful year for you!! xoxo

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    1. Thank you Claire! Those deep questions really get the brain working, don't they?
      Just want to live with few regrets!
      Speaking of...I need to take a trip to see my blogging buddies in Central Florida!! SOON!
      Love ya girl!
      xoxo

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  3. Happy Birthday to you. . . And me! Thanks for the reflections.

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    1. Was it your birthday too Jean? Happy Birthday!!
      Hope it was wonderful!!
      xoxo

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  4. Hi Sharon... just came across your blog and love it. Great words to live by. Hope you have a happy, healthy year ahead of you. I'll definitely be back!

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    1. Thank you Katie! So glad you came by! Your comment made my day!
      Wishing you a happy, healthy year as well!
      xoxo

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  5. I also just came across your blog and love it - especially digging your reflection points. I've "self reflected" more in the last year (since my own chick has fledged) than I have in the 18 years preceding it. Birthdays are wonderful for remembering to ask the big questions. Losing people near your own age is always so hard and it does force that self-reflection.

    I hope to read more of your stuff!

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    1. Yea Emma! Welcome! So glad you left me a comment!
      It is hard facing aging...and all that comes with it!
      Feel like a youngin inside : ) Guess that's all that matters!

      Thanks for making my day!
      Hope you'll comment again!
      xoxo

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  6. came across your blog as I googled "life after empty nest" - My youngest has just finished college and my oldest is currently living at home but is getting ready to fly the nest and buy a house with her boyfriend...life as I knew it - taking care of my kids is over and I'm struggling with the fact that I am now "just a housekeeper" - kicking myself for not staying in the working world or having a "life" outside of my home and family...I am also in the last year of my 40's and wondering where my life went...I look forward to following your journey

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